Monthly Archives: July 2010

Forget success. Fail more!

Last time I wrote about the success mindset and why, if you actually want to succeed, it’s not the brightest idea to think about all the potential for failure. If you haven’t read it yet, go check it out. But before you say anything, let me tell you: there is nothing inherently bad about failure. Let’s start from the beginning.. What is failure? Failure refers to the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, and may be viewed as the opposite of success. Wikipedia Yeah, it looks bad. Nobody likes not meeting a desirable or intended objective, otherwise it definitely wouldn’t be intended, and if it’s desirable, then not meeting it, well.. isn’t. But what failure is isn’t the problem, what failure entails is. The consequences of failure Failure has bad press, most people associate failure with really nasty stuff, such as: shame rejection loss unfulfilled expectations broken promises anger devaluation of one’s self I’m pretty sure you associate failure with at least part of this list. So you try your best to avoid failure, to the point that, sometimes, it means not trying. Failure is success! According to common belief, failure is the opposite of success.. But did you ever think about all the other side-effects of failure: learning what to do and what not to do to obtain a certain result having new ideas of semi-related or completely unrelated projects getting an opportunity to change your path and try something new enjoying the journey itself…

You’re right, you’re gonna fail.

photo credit: salimfadhley Whether you think that you can, or that you can’t, you are usually right. Henry Ford Have you ever heard someone complaining about an activity, a new sport, a contest, or anything that they might fail, and say “What’s the point? I’m not good enough” or any variant of “I can’t do it”? Yeah, me too. When that happens, I feel like I’m gonna explode, jump and grab them, then shake their poor body until they stop saying such stupid things. We are what we think The brain (and the universe) will do whatever it can to bring you what you expect. If you expect to fail, it will bring you failure, because this is what you wished for. If you expect success, and do whatever is necessary to make it so, it will give its best to accomplish your desire. If you want to succeed, think like a successful person. Of course, there is never, ever, a guarantee of results, but I assure you that the journey itself is completely different. Do you honestly believe that the people who complain all the time and never miss an opportunity to tell everyone they’re going to fail actually want to succeed? They want comfort, and to be allowed to fail There are basically three reasons people set themselves up for failure: They want encouragement, they want to be told that they’re wrong, that they will succeed. Basically they want others to make them feel better about themselves. They want…

Why clarity is your best ally on the road to success

photo credit: dobrych Is everything clear? Have you ever felt like something wasn’t right, without being able to point out what it is or why it’s giving you this feeling? It might be your career, your personal life or simply the number of items on that damn new restaurant menu. Wouldn’t it be nice if everything just made perfect sense? No wondering, no hesitation, just the feeling of knowing… Would you like some clarity on the side? Having clarity means knowing what your current situation is, what you’d like it be to, how they differ, but most importantly, how to close the gap and achieve what you want. If you know where you want to go, and how to get there, congratulations! You can stop reading now. Otherwise, stay with me. “I had the perfect plan!” Awesome! Me too! It involved me being rich and famous (basically ruling the world) by 25. Hasn’t happened yet. Nor do I still want it to happen, mind you, but I digress. If life always went according to plan, it’d be way easier, or at least, more comfortable. Unfortunality for our controling nature, life rarely goes according to (our) plan. All the unexpected events and unforeseen consequences in your life slowly changed the picture. But worse, most of the time, they don’t actually brag about it, so you might not realize that the circumstances have changed until way later. That creates confusion, not only about the present situation, but also about the future: what’s ahead…